One Day at a Time

journey

“Fall is a season for change”…so cliché. But also true. I’ve been trying to wrap my head around this whole “living-in-a-new-place-and-doing-everything-on-my-own” thing. It’s quite the change. It’s funny because I remember this time last year I was so damn anxious to get on with the rest of my life. I was having a blast being in school, not working (for once), going out with my friends 24/7, and actually enjoying my classes because I had time to study. But I was so ready to see where the next chapter of my life would take me. I wanted to know where I would end up living after graduation, which company I’d be working for, what my job would be like…if my degree that I worked my ass off for would end up being worthwhile.

And here I am. Approximately 1 year later and wishing more than anything that I could go back to my college days. I know, everyone says that. Everyone says “your college years will be the best years of your life”. I get it. But it’s so, SO true. At least compared to your first year working in the “real world”. And looking into the future only looks more stressful. Enjoyable and wonderful, yes. But stressful and expensive.

Don’t get me wrong, being in the working world isn’t all that bad. You make way more money than you did at your part-time college job. You (hopefully) get to do something that interests you every day. And…yeah that’s about it. Just kidding, it’s not that bad. Kind of.

I mean, let’s face it. 22 is such an awkward age. Half of the people I know from school are getting married and/or having kids at this point. And the other half are either still in school or focusing on readjusting to working in the real world….and some people have absolutely no idea what they’re doing with their lives. There comes a point in life where you have to stop looking back on the past and stop trying to plan for the future. There is so much beauty in focusing on the present…if only we were all a little better at that.

Speaking of he present, there are like a million and a half things I told myself I would have accomplished or started working on by now. I told myself that after college I would do some soul searching and “really find out what life is all about”. Yet we’re all always doing that and probably will be until the day we die. Let’s face it, no one really knows what the hell they’re actually supposed to be doing with their life.

Like, for example, I told myself that I would have taken up yoga by now and would go to 2-3 classes every single week – partly for the physical aspect of it and partly for the spiritual reflection. Nope, still haven’t done that, and actually stopped going to the gym every day like I used to because the real world gets stressful and sometimes a girl just needs to sit on the couch and not do a damn thing. I need to remember the sometimes part. J I also wanted to start playing piano regularly again. Problem is, I have my keyboard and no power cord or stand because it got lost during my move out here. So there’s that.

I guess I’m starting to realize that maybe putting a million things on my plate in addition to starting a new job and moving to a completely new place might have been a bit of a stretch for my personal psyche to handle. For now, I’ll just stick to getting through the workweeks and starting to work out again. There is a time for everything – we’ve got to give ourselves a chance to enjoy our time in the now.

15 things to remember as I start my new “big girl” life after college…

My first post here will be a re-post from yesterday from my last blog. Over the past year I’ve grown quite a bit as a “blogger”, so I decided to get a new domain name. “Avoir la pêche” means “to feel great” or to be “just peachy!”…enjoy :)

“Sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past, stop planning the future, stop figuring out precisely how we feel, stop deciding exactly what we want, and just see what happens.” — Carrie Bradshaw

For whatever reason it’s been a rough month for blogging for me. Not really sure what got into me, but somehow I kind of lost my inspiration for a while there. Anyway…I’ve had a lot on my mind lately with all of the changes coming up in my near future. In just a few short months I’m gonna have to graduate college and move off to Denver all by my lonesome (insert the monkey emoji with his hands over his eyes here). Don’t get me wrong, I can’t wait to live near the mountains and enjoy the Colorado lifestyle. But I can’t say it doesn’t scare me.
I can’t believe I’m already almost done. I went and picked up my cap & gown the other day and all of a sudden I had a zillion memories rushing through my head. It’s funny how time seems to pass so slowly and then all of a sudden four years have flown by. All of the boyfriends and breakups, best friends, lost friends, crazy (like really though…why did we do some of those things) nights out, the all-nighters at the library, 2am Jimmy Johns orders with my roommates, interviews, stupidly annoying classes, weekend trips…I could go on and on…all of that has made me who I am today. And I couldn’t be more thankful for every single memory each of those things has given me.

Earlier this year, when I was feeling all sentimental about having to grow up after graduation and sulking in my own childish “misery” because I never want to leave Mizzou, I wrote a journal entry titled “15 things to remember as I start my new ‘big girl’ life after college…”. It’s funny because I feel like I have changed so much throughout the last four years. I’ve grown as a person and learned so many things. But when I look back on this little journal entry, it makes life seem so simple.

15 things to remember as I start my new “big girl” life after college…

  1. Be grateful for the moments you have & the people you have around you. Surround yourself with people who make you happy.
  2. Don’t worry so much. Like, really. STOP worrying.
  3. Continue to network and grow throughout your career and throughout your life.
  4. Spend quality time with your (future) kids as much as possible. And your dogs. :) Simply being in the same room isn’t always “enough”.
  5. Let friendships run their course. Accept changes as they come and don’t expect everything to always stay the same.
  6. Don’t work your life away.
  7. Ask your parents questions since you were unable to ask your grandparents so many of the questions you have. And take their advice when they give it.
  8. Volunteer. A lot. Make it something you’re passionate about.
  9. Don’t hold grudges. Especially with the people you love.
  10. Take risks (responsibly).
  11. Make physical fitness and overall health a priority.
  12. See the world.
  13. Know when to support your own dreams over other’s dreams, and when to support other’s dreams over your own.
  14. Spend as much time as possible with your loved ones. With your kids, parents, siblings, aunts and uncles, cousins, friends…everyone close to my heart.
  15. Relish your youth. Right now. In this moment. So that in ten years when you look back, you can only smile.