Traits of a “He’s a Keeper” Kind of Guy (In my book)

I don’t think I’ve ever written something as personal (or as sappy…sorry…) as this post. I have no real reason for writing it other than the fact that I am so happy and so in love – and after going through lots of experiences in the last 5 years, I think I’ve finally nailed down what I want (and need) in a relationship. Lucky for me, my man has all of these traits.

1. He supports you. In your personal life goals, your professional experiences, and throughout all of life’s highs and lows. He is there to tell you he supports your decisions and your actions whether or not he 100% agrees with them. Why? Because he loves you and wants you to be happy. He also knows how to respectfully tell you when you’re wrong or out of line – just as important in my book.

2. He intrigues you. It’s more than just a physical attraction or emotional satisfaction. You can have interesting conversations with him about intellectual concepts and ideas in addition to talking about experiences you’ve had together or day-to-day ramblings. There is something about the two of you that connects on a further level that makes your physical and emotional connection that much better.

3. He makes you happy. As in the kind of happy that makes you giggly and embarrassed because you laugh so hard you can’t breathe. Or the kind of happy that you forget everything else when you’re in his arms (especially on tough days). Or the kind of happy that makes you break down your guards and really get to know one another.

4. He respects you. He respects your decisions, your actions, and your words as long as they aren’t outrageous (which is never, right? :P). He wants to see you grow and succeed in any- and everything that you do; and he’s there to support you through that 100% of the way.

5. He loves you. He loves you in the way that he does things for you that he’s never done for anyone else before. He shows that loves you in the way that you need him to, even if it’s not his usual way of approaching things. He shows you he loves you by doing sweet and romantic things for you – not because that’s his natural personality but because he wants to show you in every way possible that he is committed. And (maybe most importantly) he shows you he loves you even when you’re at your worst. No explanation needed. That’s a big one.

I think I’ve found this guy. He knows he means everything to me and I’ve told him a million times before, but I love and appreciate him more than I could possibly put into words. Thanks for being a perfect example of the guy I’ve been hoping and waiting for, Kyle. There ain’t nothin better than what we’ve got when we’re together. :)

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“45 Life Lessons Written by a 90-Year-Old Woman”…But Not Really

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I read this article on savvysugar.com and had to share it. This woman, Regina Brett, wrote a beautiful list of 45 life lessons. She wrote the list on her 45th birthday after being diagnosed with breast cancer, which is a situation near and dear to my heart. She is now 54 years old and her list has gone so viral that somehow the story changed and people were sharing her list saying that she was 90 years old…so they must be some pretty good life lessons if she gets that kind of life-credibility, right? Yep. Beautifully written with heartfelt thought and specific intentions, this is probably one some of the best life advice I’ve ever read. Enjoy :)

This list was taken from the original article, which you can access here: http://www.savvysugar.com/45-Life-Lessons-Written-90-Year-Old-Woman-34209890

  1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
  2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
  3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
  4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
  5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
  6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
  7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
  8. Save for retirement, starting with your first paycheck.
  9. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
  10. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
  11. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
  12. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
  13. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
  14. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
  15. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.
  16. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.
  17. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
  18. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
  19. Burn the candles; use the nice sheets; wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
  20. Overprepare, then go with the flow.
  21. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
  22. The most important sex organ is the brain.
  23. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
  24. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?”
  25. Forgive everyone, everything.
  26. What other people think of you is none of your business.
  27. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
  28. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
  29. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
  30. Believe in miracles.
  31. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
  32. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
  33. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
  34. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
  35. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
  36. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
  37. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
  38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
  39. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
  40. The best is yet to come.
  41. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.
  42. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
  43. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
  44. Yield.
  45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

15 things to remember as I start my new “big girl” life after college…

My first post here will be a re-post from yesterday from my last blog. Over the past year I’ve grown quite a bit as a “blogger”, so I decided to get a new domain name. “Avoir la pêche” means “to feel great” or to be “just peachy!”…enjoy :)

“Sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past, stop planning the future, stop figuring out precisely how we feel, stop deciding exactly what we want, and just see what happens.” — Carrie Bradshaw

For whatever reason it’s been a rough month for blogging for me. Not really sure what got into me, but somehow I kind of lost my inspiration for a while there. Anyway…I’ve had a lot on my mind lately with all of the changes coming up in my near future. In just a few short months I’m gonna have to graduate college and move off to Denver all by my lonesome (insert the monkey emoji with his hands over his eyes here). Don’t get me wrong, I can’t wait to live near the mountains and enjoy the Colorado lifestyle. But I can’t say it doesn’t scare me.
I can’t believe I’m already almost done. I went and picked up my cap & gown the other day and all of a sudden I had a zillion memories rushing through my head. It’s funny how time seems to pass so slowly and then all of a sudden four years have flown by. All of the boyfriends and breakups, best friends, lost friends, crazy (like really though…why did we do some of those things) nights out, the all-nighters at the library, 2am Jimmy Johns orders with my roommates, interviews, stupidly annoying classes, weekend trips…I could go on and on…all of that has made me who I am today. And I couldn’t be more thankful for every single memory each of those things has given me.

Earlier this year, when I was feeling all sentimental about having to grow up after graduation and sulking in my own childish “misery” because I never want to leave Mizzou, I wrote a journal entry titled “15 things to remember as I start my new ‘big girl’ life after college…”. It’s funny because I feel like I have changed so much throughout the last four years. I’ve grown as a person and learned so many things. But when I look back on this little journal entry, it makes life seem so simple.

15 things to remember as I start my new “big girl” life after college…

  1. Be grateful for the moments you have & the people you have around you. Surround yourself with people who make you happy.
  2. Don’t worry so much. Like, really. STOP worrying.
  3. Continue to network and grow throughout your career and throughout your life.
  4. Spend quality time with your (future) kids as much as possible. And your dogs. :) Simply being in the same room isn’t always “enough”.
  5. Let friendships run their course. Accept changes as they come and don’t expect everything to always stay the same.
  6. Don’t work your life away.
  7. Ask your parents questions since you were unable to ask your grandparents so many of the questions you have. And take their advice when they give it.
  8. Volunteer. A lot. Make it something you’re passionate about.
  9. Don’t hold grudges. Especially with the people you love.
  10. Take risks (responsibly).
  11. Make physical fitness and overall health a priority.
  12. See the world.
  13. Know when to support your own dreams over other’s dreams, and when to support other’s dreams over your own.
  14. Spend as much time as possible with your loved ones. With your kids, parents, siblings, aunts and uncles, cousins, friends…everyone close to my heart.
  15. Relish your youth. Right now. In this moment. So that in ten years when you look back, you can only smile.